Monday, April 13, 2009

Am I an evil person?

I have been working in a floral shop for almost one year. I will soon get a promotion to be the manage of our department.





since I work very hard and I can make very nice arrangement.the most important thing is that I%26#039;m very good at dealing with our customers. I always serve the customers patiently and concern of what they need very much. recently I just got a reward of my good service.





but we just got a new girl who is a Asian too like me.she can do the same good service just like me. of course, so far, I can do better arrangement than her. but it%26#039;s not very hard to learn if a person who love this kind of job.





so I felt so uncomfortable. it was my specialty . but now I fell a potential competition. I will lose my credite. I guess somebody will say, it is good for you as you got a so good worker. what are you worring about?





I do am worried. her English is much beeter than me. she%26#039;s 10ys older than me. I know, I%26#039;m so selfish.but it%26#039;s my true feeling.

Am I an evil person?
Why would you be evil? You are just worried about keeping your job, there isn%26#039;t anything fundamentally %26quot;wrong%26quot; with that. If you are worried about her working harder than you though, then you have to be willing to work harder yourself. If you have good employers, they aren%26#039;t going to drop you as long as you pull your weight. She may have a better accent than you, but if you do a better job you aren%26#039;t going to get fired. If you see that she does very good work, then you are going to need to push yourself to do just as well or better. This might be tough, but that%26#039;s the way the working world is.
Reply:Hello, Sun! You are not evil. It is normal to sense competition, especially with an art like floral arrangement! I would try your best to be this person%26#039;s friend. It will make you look confident in yourself and you might be able to learn a thing or two from her. I understand your insecurity, and again, it does not make you evil. Take great pride in your work and others will too. Good luck and stay proud!
Reply:You%26#039;re not an evil person as long as you try and do the job because you love it and not get jealous of whatever happens. You can not stop other people%26#039;s dreams because they might interfere with yours, you don%26#039;t have that control a lot of the times.
Reply:course not evil[:
Reply:To be worried is NOT selfish. You have identified ONE difference or ONE shortcoming in your performance: your English. Stop worrying about everything else.





Find a public school that will help you improve your English, OR hang out with native English speakers, and let them know you want to speak more like a native, so they should not be afraid to offer corrections. Or do both.





Carry around a pocket dictionary so that you can look up words like %26quot;selfish%26quot;. %26quot;Selfish%26quot; is to think TOO much of yourself and not about others.
Reply:envy not evil
Reply:You are not evil but you are normal. You see your new coworker as a threat and you are kind of on the offensive. Don%26#039;t fret no matter what happens you have your experience and you feel good about it. Don%26#039;t let anyone take that away from you.
Reply:Even though you think it%26#039;s competition it%26#039;s an opprotunity to learn from each other, maybe you have lots in common, and maybe as you teach her to do arrangements better, she can help you with english, it could pay off for both of you, but you will always have seniority over her so your secure in your position. Give her a chance it just may work out. Good luck and don%26#039;t worry.
Reply:no



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Help! ,me im confused!?

this is not a joke!lately whenever i hear the word %26#039;gardenia%26quot; or am around the flower ,i get abnormally aroused. i have always been interested in plants and forestry, but this is ruining my relationships. sometimes i find myself going into floral shops just to catch a whiff. if no one is around i will even dare a quick caress. i cant even get intimate with my boyfriend unless gardenias are in the picture. i use to work at an airport gift shop, but i got fired for being %26quot; inappropriate%26quot; with some of the arrangements whatever that means. they called me a freak:( my questtion is , since i cant get over this, should i just give into my desires and be open with my new found romantic love? please dont report me! no one will help !

Help! ,me im confused!?
deflower the flowers?


how kinky
Reply:what ever gets you going go for it



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Who gets flowers?

I%26#039;ve got to start interviewing florists soon, and I%26#039;m trying to make a list of the flowers I%26#039;ll need for our wedding. I%26#039;ve got the centerpieces and the bouquets down, but I%26#039;m not sure who all is supposed to get a boutineer or corsage. Obviously the groomsmen get boutineers and the mothers get corsages, but who else? I want to have an accurate count so I can figure out my floral budget. Thanks! Oh, and what other arranged bouquets will I need as well? I know I%26#039;ll need a couple of arrangements for the altar, but what else?

Who gets flowers?
Okay!! Other than your bouquet and the centerpieces on the dinner tables, make sure you have other tables counted as well- if you are doing anything for the buffet table (if you are having one), gift table (ditto), guest book table, etc.





A few arrangements at the altar are nice, also decide if you want to have anything at the end of the pews and if so, are they going to be floral?





Dont%26#039;d forget flower petals - for the flower girls (if theyre allowed to drop them), as well as possibly having guests throw them on you (instead of rice, etc.), and possibly decorating tables with them.





For boutonnieres, corsages, and bouquets, you have obviously the bride and groom, then the groomsmen and bridesmaids, and then mothers and fathers. Some people also choose to honor grandparents with corsages/boutonnieres, or any other guests you want to distinguish, such as godparents. It is also very nice to have anyone who is doing something for you in the ceremony, like reading or singing, to have one.





Also decide on if you want flowers or some other topper on your cake.





Oh and if your flower girls arent or cant drop petals, make sure you have something for them - a mini-bouquet or a pomander ball, or something.





And decide if you are planning to throw the bouquet-you may want a smaller, less expensive %26quot;tossing%26quot; bouquet instead of using your real one if you want to keep/preserve your own.





All of this is optional-you can stick to the bare bones (wedding party and parents) or flesh it out the the rest of this, but there shouldnt be anything I didnt put on the list that is usually done. Don%26#039;t forget if you want to save money or do things a little differently, you can use silk flowers instead of real ones, you can choose what types of flowers you use-different ones cost A LOT differently, you can have bridesmaids carry candles or flower girls ring bells, etc. You can also get bouquets and boutonnieres made out of swarovski crystals which are really pretty, or you could do non-floral centerpieces (like floating candles, etc). Just some ideas; good luck!!!
Reply:Don%26#039;t forget the ushers. And congratulations!!!
Reply:You%26#039;d be just as married if you had no flowers at all, so the answer is %26quot;anyone you%26#039;d to whom you%26#039;d care to make a gift of flowers.%26quot; Generally the bride has some sort of bouquet (to later throw) and the groom has some sort of buttonhole blossom. Everything beyond that is really just icing on the cake. If your florist tries to tell you otherwise, tell your florist that Miss Manners says and that he/she is just trying to pad the bill.
Reply:Some brides include the grandparents as well. I think it%26#039;s a nice gesture.





Good luck
Reply:We did-


Great Aunt (because my grandmothers are passed), his 5 sisters who are not in the wedding, sister%26#039;s husband not in the wedding, fathers, mothers and the groomsmen and bridesmaids and of coarse us.


Extra- Church flowers- talk to the church about what you need.
Reply:The fathers should get boutineers as well. Otherwise, I think you%26#039;ve got it covered.
Reply:Fathers of the bride and groom should get boutonnieres.





You may want to give boutonnieres and corsages to the grandparents of the bride and groom.





If you or your groom-to-be have godparents you may want to consider giving them boutonnieres and corsages too.
Reply:the florist knows.
Reply:Your bridesmaids, groomsman, the groom and the bride. Then the parents get one, perhaps the grandparents. Don%26#039;t worry about anyone else.





As far as decorative flowers, I suggest ditching anything that isn%26#039;t for your reception tables. Flowers are by far one of the biggest wedding rip offs. They cost a lot of money and die. Depending on your church/ceremony site, you may not need additional decor. BTW, I used ProFlowers.com, and they were great.
Reply:The flower girl needs petals. Get a buttonhole for the ring bearer. And the bridesmaids get bouquets.
Reply:A lot of the time bridesmaids get flowers as well. and any other who are in the wedding party like sisters brothers in laws and so forth you really need to know who is going to be part of the ceremony and what not cause they should have flowers and yes your grandparents should have one as well nieces and nephew don%26#039;t really need then only if they are old enough to have one or ware one


you should also find pictures of flowers and arrangements that you like so you can show the florist what you would like to have


hope this helps and good luck
Reply:A good loving heart is all you need.


Best Wishes


P.S If he comes in late from work and says he had a business meeting.


Make him do 50 push ups and yell out %26quot;Yes MAaam%26quot; I will obey%26quot;



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Anybody know where i can find real stargazer lilies in bulk online?

i%26#039;m going to be ordering flowers in bulk and having a family friend do my bouquets and arrangements (she%26#039;s experienced.) i%26#039;ve looked at the sam%26#039;s club website, they have other kinds of lilies but not stargazers. these are my favorite flowers, and i%26#039;d really like to have them for my wedding. are there any other bulk floral websites out there?

Anybody know where i can find real stargazer lilies in bulk online?
Lilium or stargazer lilies are also known as oriental lilies (not asiatic) and can be bought in bulk at costco online
Reply:http://www.flowerbud.com/flower-market/g...
Reply:Try theflowerexchange.com They%26#039;ve got lots of flowers you can order and good prices.





Are they seasonal? Sams club used to have stargazer lillies online.
Reply:I have heard good things about www.freshroses.com....last I checked they had more than just roses you could get and the prices aren%26#039;t bad either.





Proflowers.com is pretty good but the prices are a little high


Flowerbud.com ditto





Talk to the florists in the area...perhaps they would be willing to sell the you lillies but at a discount since they wouldn%26#039;t be doing the arrangements. Some of the nice ones might even tell you who their supplier is so you could order directly from them.



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I'm doing my own flowers, need advice...?

We are on a strict budget for our wedding and based on the quotes I%26#039;ve been told, we can%26#039;t afford a florist. A friend of my Mother told us that we should buy real flowers in bulk online and just do the arrangements ourselves. (that%26#039;s what they did at her daughters wedding) I love the idea, especially since we aren%26#039;t doing that many decorations. My fiancee is afraid real flowers will be too much work since we have to care for them overnight. My question is, for those who did their own flowers, how do I know how much to order? Whether I go with silk or real I don%26#039;t want to overbuy. I do have a floral book that I%26#039;m getting ideas from. Also, If it ends up being easier can I mixed silk flowers with real, or is that tacky? The bouquets and stuff will be real. Any advice would be a great help!

I%26#039;m doing my own flowers, need advice...?
I only wish I had $5000 to spend on MY wedding! I%26#039;m planning an outdoor wedding for May %26#039;07 and have done all my own florals with silks. I wouldn%26#039;t mix fresh and silks either. Doing your own isn%26#039;t that hard and will save you alot in the end. I bought my silks from several different places, Hobby Lobby, Michael%26#039;s, Dollar General and Dollar Tree. Hobby Lobby will usually have their stems on sale one week and their bunches on sale the next, both at half price. They have some beautiful silks to choose from. If you choose to buy on an off week then they always have a coupon you can use to save 40%. I bought my bouquet holder from Hobby Lobby on a week when they had all their wedding stuff for half off. Choose whatever florals you want to use and all you have to do is cut them and begin placing them in the styrofoam holder, then when you%26#039;re satisfied with the look, finish it off by wrapping coordinating ribbons around the handle and then looping them thru the hole on the end to have some hanging off. You can go to multiple websites online and print off step by step directions on how to do your own, just do a search on how to.


I also made all the corsages and boutineers too, plus decorations to use thruout the wedding. I%26#039;m also decorating an arbor with tulle, red heart lights and silk garlands that will coordinate with my bridal flowers.


If I can do it, anyone can! Just have a hot glue gun, wire cutters, some wire, floral tape and a little confidence in yourself!!


Best wishes for beautiful flowers and a happy life!
Reply:I am not sure what your budget is (I have worked with very small before though) there are a few good options for silks. Dont do real because to keep them from wilting you should refrigerate them overnight and that could take alot of room up in your fridge.


Silks have come a LONG way since their conception, and you can get silks now that are almost impossible to tell from the real thing. Just be sure you get good quality.


I know a few silk florists (online) that work with budgets. If you would like their info email me.





EDIT: You can get good quality silks for less than 300, email me and I will help you cut costs if you like (For FREE). You can have a GREAT wedding on a $5000 budget (or less!)
Reply:If there is anyway you can squeeze any money out of your budget for at least your bouquet, I would highly recommend it. You say you have a book you are looking at, then look at the arm bouquets for your attendants. These would be the easiest for a novice. You really should have a florist do these also. You could choose rather inexpensive flowers, with a flashy bow with streamers. The boutonnieres and corsages you could do in silk, in advance. Check with the church about altar flowers. Some require them. I wish I had more time to help you out more,
Reply:If you have never done flower work before it isnt as easy as it looks.


Silk flowers are tacky , in my opinion for a wedding.





If you are really on a tight budget my suggestion is this.For your Bridal bouquet have what is known as an arm bouquet.Simply put a few stems of fresh flowers tied with ribbon. They can be kept over night in a vase of water, they dont need to be refridgerated if kept cool.same with your bridesmaids.


Bouts. and coursages have made by a florist.They can be kept in the fridge over night. Limit who gets them.





Buying flowers online that are mailed can be a huge mistake if you have never dealt with the company before.Your flowers may be damaged or your shipment late.





If you have a Costco in your area they sell mixed bouquets of flowers in the store they now also sell wedding packages online.The people that provide this service are usually wholsale growers in your area. Look at their packages online.


You can also pre order flowers from the store in some areas talk to the manager.
Reply:I wouldn%26#039;t mix real and silk. Not in the same bouquet, at least. You could give your maid/matron of honor a real bouquet, and give the rest of your girls silk, though. As far as overordering, if you find silks online or whatever that you like, buy just one or 2 bushes. Chances are you local WalMart/Hobby Lobby/Michael%26#039;s has the same thing for half the price. Also, I know that MOST Hobby Lobby stores have someone who designs silk bouquets. Not sure on pricing, but if you have one near you it might be worth the time to check it out. You could also google silk wedding bouquets. Most places where you order the full bouquets you can pick the type/color of flower to be used.
Reply:For decoration I only use artificial flowers, life flowers are only for bouquet boutonniere etc. sometimes people use real flower for centerpieces, which is OK and usually doesn%26#039;t cost as much. Sure if you can do your own arrangement to look like the ones you see in the magazine, feel free to do so.


Yes my florist did say it is a lot of work to keep your flowers fresh for the event and it will cost you utility bills too I think, because you might not have time to arrange the flowers the day before the wedding right? means you will buy them 2 or 3 days prior then arrange them then store them with the right temperature etc..



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Can I have curly willow or similar type branches for summer wedding?

My fiance requested that our centerpieces be tall and possibly branches such as curly willow or pussy willow. Our colors are red, black and white so he suggested that the branches be in one of those colors. I%26#039;ve only seen this done in fall or winter weddings since the season matches the decor. However, we have a lot of home decor with these types of branches in our own home and LOVE how they look. Would it be appropriate for an August wedding? I%26#039;m not much of a flower person, I love flowers in gardens but not in bouquets so much. I%26#039;d take branches and/or candles any day. Also, we%26#039;re trying to stay on a small wedding floral budget and hopefully I can make these centerpieces myself.





Would it be fine or would it look completely out of season? Know of any good pictures online that I could get ideas from?





Also, would guests want to as a take-home centerpiece? Not sure what we%26#039;d do with 15 centerpieces. We love these branch arrangements, but not that many!





Thanks!

Can I have curly willow or similar type branches for summer wedding?
I think that it could be done in a summer-y way :) Maybe you could add small flowers/greenery? If it is what you want, then the two of you should go for it! In my family, people always get excited about who gets to take centerpieces home, regardless of what they are lol. Even if your guests don%26#039;t want them, you could try to sell them or even donate them to a place that would like them as decorations or props?





Good luck!
Reply:they would be beautiful and dead easy for you to do yourself! if your vases are clear then get clear glass beads to hold the branches in place or if you are using pottery vases you can use regular old gravel to hold the branches in place! if you are lucky enough to have %26#039;frogs%26#039; use those!


michaels or joanns or any other big box craft shop should be able to supply you with the branches and the dollar stores should have vases! good luck and happy happy wedding!
Reply:It%26#039;ll be fine. If you want them to look more summery then just take some small silk flowers and floral wire and add them to the branches so they look like a blossoming tree.





Guests may or may not decide to take home the centerpieces. If they decide not to you can always sell them or just pitch them.



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Have you used Farmstogo.com?

I just found this site and they have great prices on flowers.





I am doing simple arrangements and my FMIL BFF (lol) took a couple courses on floral design and bridal design. She is going to help for free. Just buy the supplies. So needless to say, I have a great thing, if I can get the flowers I want for great prices.





I just want to know what you thought about them, or if any other wholesale dealers were awesome and you want to share!





Thanks!

Have you used Farmstogo.com?
I haven%26#039;t used these suppliers, but I%26#039;ve heard good things about Fresh Roses. (They were recommended in that Bridal Bargains book.)
Reply:Hi. No, sorry, I have not used that particular wholesaler, so I cannot vouch for their service. I have used Rosesource.com, though, (see link below), for my son%26#039;s wedding. They seem a little higher, but I can vouch for their service and on-time delivery. It%26#039;s really scary ordering online (for sure!), but they did all arrive and we were extremely happy. You can read my testimonial on their site under %26quot;customer comments.%26quot; It%26#039;s signed Gail B.





http://www.rosesource.com/





Good luck in your search!
Reply:http://www.afloral.com/Wedding-Supplies;...





This is a good site i havent order from it but it does have a lot of good cheap flowers on it.



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